Coping With Infertility
Do not blame yourself or your partner. It is not uncommon for one or both partners to feel that it is their fault they are unable to get pregnant. Blame may stem from past choices or circumstances that may have had an effect your ability to conceive, or be directed toward your partner for wanting to wait until later to start a family. The blame game is always a lame game. Blaming is never helpful or constructive. It is be hurtful and creates stress that can further distance you from your goals. Instead, acknowledge that there are things that may have influenced your chances of having children, but you cannot change the past. Look forward to the future and what you can do together now. Work as a team to determine your options.
Continually educate yourself about infertility. Uncertainty or fear of the unknown plays a big part in how you respond or cope with feelings. The more you understand about infertility and infertility treatments available the better you and your partner are able to plan for what lies ahead. This can be a great source of hope. You will know what to expect from different types of treatments and how much they will cost. You’ll also feel more comfortable talking to family and friends about your situation.
Give yourself permission to talk about your feelings. Be open and honest with your partner about how you are feeling and you may find they are feeling some of the same emotions. Set a time limit for how long you and your partner talk about frustrations, sadness, and further plans, since it can be draining or amplify those negative feelings. Find a support group for couples who are struggling with fertility problems. Your doctor’s office should be able to recommend groups that meet in your neighbourhood. There are support groups available online where you can chat with others who are experiencing the same things you are and be encouraged by couples who have been through it and have had a successful pregnancy.
Don’t give up hope. Whatever type of infertility treatment you and your partner choose there may be disappointments, but be encouraged. There is always someone who has walked the same road and can share their experience, strength and hope.
About the Author: Eric Daiter has been sponsored by The NJ Center for Reproductive Medicine, a leading provider of infertility treatment, to write information about male infertility. For more information, please visit www.infertilitytutorials.com.